With some bemusement I have been watching (and sometimes participating) in social media responses to Black Friday. For my readers outside of the US, let me explain this weird phenomenon.
We celebrate Thanksgiving on the fourth Thursday of November. The origins of the holiday trace back to the first wave of European immigrants to this country in the 1600’s. At the end of their first year, the survivors gathered after the harvest to celebrate their miraculous survival, the bounty the land, and the kindness of indigenous people who helped them figure out how to survive. At least that’s the story school kids learn. Today the holiday is more of an American pig out—a day of immense excess: excess food, excess libation, excess football watching, excess family strife, excess waste, excess stress.
Because most Americans are off work from Thursday through Sunday, the retail industry decided that the day after Thanksgiving would be the peak Christmas shopping day of the year. It is now referred to as Black Friday. And black it is. As if Thanksgiving weren’t excess enough, we move right into the next flurry of excess:
Excess spending, excess driving around, excess fighting over the last available coveted items, excess debt, excess stress, excess buying shit—whether you need it or not. In previous years, people have been killed in stampedes at the doors of big box retailers. As if Black Friday weren’t bad enough, some merchants jump the gun and begin their sales on Thanksgiving Day.
Frankly, I think Americans who participate in this madness need to have their heads examined. What is it they are really doing? Are they really providing their families with necessities? Or are they teaching their kids to want material things at any cost? Are they teaching their kids sensible money management or are they demonstrating why so few Americans can afford to retire? Are they spending quality time with family and friends? No. Even when families go to the mall in one car, they fan out in separate directions so as to most efficiently cover the entire complex.
I submit that a more sensible approach to the looming family debt load that Christmas has become, would be to purchase only what is really needed and to do so from local vendors as much as possible. I suggest that a better use of the free time provided by the Thanksgiving holiday would be to spend Friday doing something physical with your family: go for a hike, a bike ride, shovel snow for the elderly in your neighborhood, rake leaves in the neighborhood, volunteer at a soup kitchen, go skiing, sledding, or tubing as a family, spend the long weekend making gifts for each other. Make a plan with your family and friends about how to approach Christmas gift giving. Instead of buying Johnny another Xbox, how about outfitting an immigrant family with new kitchen supplies, food, or clothing? How about emulating the generosity of those poor east coast Indians who helped out the newcomers, even though those newcomers turned around and nearly decimated their hosts?
Try something new this season. Lock your credit cards in a safe deposit box and spend only the money in your wallet. If you’re hell bent on celebrating the supposed birth date of Christ, do something that would make him proud.
Oh, by the way, Happy Thanksgiving!
Lynz Real Cooking said:
Awesome post!!
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Marlene Bean said:
-My sentiments exactly! Thank you!
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denisebushphoto said:
GREAT post Linda and I agree with you 100%. I stopped participating in the insane holiday madness a few years ago and now I enjoy the holidays much, MUCH more. Sadly, I think shopping is a hobby for many people.
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rangewriter said:
Good for you! Yes, shopping is a hobby for some and an obsession for others. Have a great Thanksgiving, doing something you love doing!
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deansgreatwahoo said:
You go, girl!
I liked what John Steward had to say about Thanksgiving. I’m paraphrasing: We had a traditional Thanksgiving. We had all the neighbors by and had a big feast and good time and then we killed them and took their land.
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rangewriter said:
That’s about it!
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sybil said:
Oh I love Jon Stewart! Spot on as usual. Great post Linda. “Black Friday” has crept up here into Canada. What chance did we have ? We are the mouse living next to the elephant !
I love how you speak the truth without fear or holding back. Keep it up girl !
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rangewriter said:
Sybil, your comment itself raises some strange questions. Canada, size-wise, is nearly as large as the US. (Ok, I get it that much of the northern reaches are less than habitable, but still…) Canada traces its existence back to the same time frame as the US, Canada has great natural resources, a learned population, smart politics, and yet it is perceived as the mouse beside the elephant? That’s just not right. I guess I need to research some of those issues so I can go on a rant of a red and white color!
Thanks for dropping by and interacting on my blog, Sybil. I always enjoy hearing from you. Hope things are going better for you.
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sybil said:
It’s not about size. It’s about might and money and power. And as clearly demonstrated by Trump and his ilk, there are some Americans who feel entitle to take what they want and somehow feel fully justified to do so.
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rangewriter said:
Sinfully true Sybil. And some Americans are standing by, shaking our heads in disbelief. (Hopefully a large majority of us.)
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Glenda Marie Talbutt said:
Well said my friend. Enjoy your Black Friday instead of being stressed out. St. Alphonsus Festival of Trees and a play at Stagecoach Theatre for me.
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rangewriter said:
Sounds like a great plan, Glenda. I hope your toe is up for walking around the FoT. I’m sure you’ll need something to lighten your spirits this year.
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Keith said:
Linda, they keep trying to steal my favorite holiday. I get them back by not shopping on Friday. Happy Thanksgiving. Keith
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rangewriter said:
Me too, Keith. I do my best to not shop after Dec. 1 or before January 5. Shopping mania has wrecked my favorite holiday. I like old fashioned decorations so much better than the ridiculous blow up dolls that populate every outdoor display these days. What an old grinch I’m becoming.
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Keith said:
That is not an old Grinch. That is better taste.
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Playamart - Zeebra Designs said:
ha.. it wasn’t until yesterday when i was in a store that advertised a friday sale that i remembered BBF! today i’ve seen more, and when i read this and you reminded me of —- gasp —- football! i had totally forgotten about american football and the focus on games during the holiday season.
i don’t miss any of this one bit.
love
lisa
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rangewriter said:
ach, Sorry to have raised those ugly memories, Lisa. I hope you are surviving the weather and have recovered from that Chika-whatever-it’s-called disease. Interesting, references to that word (that I had never seen before I read about your experience with it) popped up in various places all summer.
I’m sure you will be celebrating Friendsgiving this year. (The new American catch phrase for what people like you and I have been doing for years. 😉
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Playamart - Zeebra Designs said:
hey amiga
i’ve often ‘defended’ to others that i have 365 days a year in which i can give token gifts to others, so i don’t feel guilty during christmas or birthdays when the onlly gift i give is my attention/love/smile/presence in their lives – and then token gifts when they seem appropriate…
i will be at the friendsgiving gathering today, though i usually avoid those kind of gatherings.. esp during thansgiving, which – to me – is about thanking the culture that accepted me into their community.. but today it’s more about helping that struggling ‘front line’ of battle-weary people find some kind of normal interaction during their ongoing crisis.
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rangewriter said:
I believe everyday is Friendsgiving for you, Lisa! Love your warm spirit.
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Playamart - Zeebra Designs said:
and i love yours, dear friend!
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Bryan Hemming said:
Your explanation/warning came too late. Like a creeping cancer, Black Friday washed up this side of the Atlantic over a decade ago. It has already reached the southernmost shore of Europe. Now, it is here, in Andalucia; ready to spread across the Straits of Gibraltar into North Africa.
The only thing good about it came when Angelica went out to buy a new printer yesterday. The store was virtually empty, as most people must be waiting to get crushed alive on Friday.
Real happiness is that thing that died about half a century ago. I can almost remember what it felt like, if I think hard enough. Never mind, mountains of genetically-modified, artificial happiness substitute will be on sale this Friday at your local mall. Shop early, it never lasts long.
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rangewriter said:
I’m sorry. The world needs a prophelactic against US diseases. The next to infectyour shores will be creeping obesity, and gun-crazy on its heels.
Maybe Angelica can capitalize on the buying frenzy by selling some of her work? I try to promote buying local, if you’ve gotta buy anything. But who is listening to me besides a few random but faithful blog followers like you?
My happiness is derived from the cat purring in my lap, anticipation of time to sit by my window and catch up with my reading, the recent dusting of snow on the ground, and the anticipation of the coming ski season.
Best to you, Bryan.
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catterel said:
Amazon and Walmart, disguised as Asda, snuck Black Friday into the UK about 5 years ago – we don’t have Thanksgiving so why do we need Black Friday? Now it’s as mad in the UK as in the US!
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rangewriter said:
Ach. You too? Like I said to Bryan, the world needs a prophelactic against US maladies. It may be too late to head off BBF, but maybe you can head off obesity and gun-toting madness. Walmart in the UK? That just stinks. I’m sorry.
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catterel said:
Just got back to Switzerland to discover my 5-year-old TV set is obsolete and incompatible with digital. Advice from my neighbour: “It’s Black Friday! Get a new one cheap today!” AAAAARRRRRGGHHH! Here too!
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highland hind said:
Excess has always offended me and made me uncomfortable. Happy to report that in my simple seaside village there are no big stores, stampedes or queues – except for the fish and chip shop in peak tourist season! I agree with you wholeheartedly – but we’re clearly not the norm.
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rangewriter said:
What? I’m not normal? Yeah, but I’m in good company! 😉
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Janes Heartsong said:
LOVE your title.What gets me, is that we Canadians celebrate Black Friday now. In the stores, anyway. Dumb asses. Regardless, Happy Thanksgiving and is always good to take a moment to reflect on what we are grateful for.
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rangewriter said:
I usually try to avoid offensive language, but some things are just so offensive that they merit such. Yes, I do like the IDEA of Thanksgiving, which is generally lost in the melee. I have so very much to be thankful for, one of which is great followers like you, who take the time and effort to read my posts and to respond. Thank you!
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Janes Heartsong said:
you are welcome.look forward to more.
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wheremyfeetare said:
I’ve been offline since last week, trying to catch up, but saw your post title in my email and had to laugh. I agree with you, Linda! I wish, as a nation, we would STOP shopping on Thanksgiving night (why, why, why are stores open on Thanksgiving night) and Friday and force the stores to close. Employees would be able to stay home and do some of those activities with their loved ones that you suggested. I will have to shop at some point since I’ve adopted two families from a homeless shelter but am not looking forward to it. In the meantime, I had a lovely time with family and hope you did too.
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rangewriter said:
Glad I punctuated your busy schedule with a chuckle. I enjoyed a Friendsgiving this year, something I’ve done for most of my adult life. With blood relatives across the pond, it’s friends who become family. Soon I will throw my efforts into my yearly card writing campaign. That is my nod to Christmas, the old fashioned (albeit recycled) Christmas cards, mailed thru USPS, in support of my former employer.
I send a toast your way: Here’s to a stress-free Christmas holiday!
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wheremyfeetare said:
And to you, Linda.
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Otto von Münchow said:
I totally agree with you sentiment in this post, Lisa. Being non-American Black Friday seems like a crazy thing. But, unfortunately, it’s craze is spreading to my part of the world, even though we don’t have the Friday off. But businesses are of course delighted (well, they are the one pushing for it to happen…).
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rangewriter said:
It is really unfortunate that America shares its plagues so generously with the rest of the world. I’m hearing the same sentiments from most of my global friends. To my knowledge, China is about the only major power that has not yet followed in lockstep. One bit of encouragement though, the Black Friday phenomenon did not grow larger this year…but that is only because online shopping is growing. It doesn’t necessarily mean a slow down in conspicuous consumption. Sigh.
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Otto von Münchow said:
Well, I would feel to bad about this export. After all it’s other countries adapting to the American success, not something imposed by USA. It’s all free will – strangely enough.
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Susan said:
Perfect title and my sentiments exactly!
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