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Betty Friedan, Black Lives Matter, chauvinism, Gloria Steinem, John Lewis, Martin Luther King, privilege, racism, social injustice
During the 60s, Betty Friedan, Gloria Steinem, and other loud-mouthed upstanders for the women’s movement introduced the world to the ever-present existence of male chauvinism. Chauvinism defined sexism in the workplace and in personal relationships. As if awakening from a long torpor, women banded together to knock down male ideas of superiority that had held them in check during the 40 years since the first wave of feminists wrested the vote from men.
Men had grown up feeling entitled to boss women around, to harass them, to demean them and to sexualize them. They didn’t even recognize the harm they inflicted on half of humanity. The ERA, passed in 1972, has still not been ratified by enough states to become law. Women are still fighting for equality. But chauvinism is an attitude. Ingrained attitudes are difficult to change, but with time and ferocity they can eventually be modified. Younger generations are educated to recognize and reject attitudes that do not make sense.
Privilege, on the other hand, cannot be modified. Privilege is a right, a benefit or special opportunity provided to one set of people but not to all people. Individuals born with a privilege are unaware of this benefit until it is pointed out to them. The privileged, because they are encapsulated in this state of being, don’t recognize the innate harm incurred by the unprivileged. The playing field looks level to the privileged. Not so for those born without. We are born with innate privileges. But do we recognize them as such?
Let’s do an exercise together to identify some of the privileges we are blessed with. I’ll start with mine.
- I’m Caucasian – On my first Brownies Camp experience, I was paired up with the only other black girl my age in our community. Feeling shy and awkward, this pairing with another more obvious outcast confirmed my social status in my mind. I remember feeling ashamed of the disappointment I felt when our pairing was announced. My campmate was probably just as disappointed to be paired with me, but she was very nice to me and, as I remember, she knew a lot more about Brownies than I did. This experience led me to ponder what life inside her skin would be like. I was an oddball, but I could hide in a crowd. This girl was trapped in a cloak that marked her at every step. She could not put on a different outfit and escape her otherness. She was always the dark skinned girl in a sea of white.
- Born into a middle class status
- Born in the US with automatic citizenship
- Born non-disabled
- Born neuro-typical
- Born straight, CIS gender
- Born into a book-filled home
- Always had stable housing (or known where I could go if I needed help)
- No family mental health issues
- Always had access to transportation
- Free education through 12th grade with adequately built, maintained, and supplied schools
- Never went to bed hungry
- Never been beaten (never even witnessed a beating)
- Had a scholarship for two years of free college
- Never lived in a red-lined district
- Never been followed through a department store by security guards
- Never been accosted walking through the woods with binoculars or a camera around my neck
- Never been pulled over by police for a broken taillight, a turn signal applied two feet too soon or too late, or any infraction that I was not guilty of
- Never been denied entry into a public space
- Never been told where I could/could not sit, drink, eat, sleep, or pee
- Came from an educated family
- Never been raped or physically attacked
- Never had a gun pointed at me
- Never faced combat
- Prior to Coronavirus, never had people cross the street to avoid me
- None of my ancestors were anyone’s property
Concurrently with the 60s women’s movement, Martin Luther King and a nucleus of brilliant thinkers courageously fought for equal rights. They, too, were loud and persistent but nonviolent—even in the face of beatings, rapes, and murder of their comrades. Their rabblerousing resulted in great strides: the voting rights act, the civil rights act, school integration, increased education funding which included initiating Head Start, and later, came equal opportunity labor laws. The election of Barack Obama to the Presidency seemed almost the culmination of a long hard battle.
But inequalities still simmer. Racism, like chauvinism, is tenacious. Tremendous political and financial upheavals did the most damage to those classes of people who’d come most recently to the public policy table. Inner cities gentrified, putting disadvantaged populations closer to the privileged class. Social safety nets from the 60s and 70s fell in favor of lower taxes and increased corporate profits. Hatred and mistrust smoldered. Social unrest brewed and boiled until too many innocent black lives were lost at the hands of racial injustice. Today’s BLM movement is the result of unrecognized privilege and intrenched, clandestine racism. The 45th president of these United States is gleefully stirring the pot of discontent. He does not want peace. He wants to pit Americans against Americans. Divide and conquer. His goal is a Kingdom filled with serfs to serve at his beck and call. Let’s not let him manipulate us.
As an exercise in humility, I challenge you to list your privileges. And then think long and hard if you’d had the poor luck of being born with only two or six of those advantages. Do you think you would be where you are today? Would you be who you are today?
Keith said:
Linda, well said. A global study noted getting ahead in America is increasingly due to where and whom you were born and less on merit. The US has fallen in economic mobility ranks when compared to other countries.
Warren Buffett, the richest person in America, said he was born lucky. Yes, he worked hard and smart, but he said he was born a white male in America. All three of those are important, at least when he was born. He was born white which gave him privilege. He was born male, as he said his sister was not given the same chances as he was.
When the richest person in America says this, it is worth noting. People who do not see white privilege do not see that they have it. They do not need to open their shopping bag as a black person does to the store guard when they leave, e.g.
They are assumed to know more than do, because they are male. I read once a women will be more likely to say she has not mastered a skill, while a man will portray that he has, even when the woman may be more qualified. In small part, this is a reason we ended up with the president we have. People believed his BS as he is been telling people such all his life.
We must understand privilege, whether it is race or gender based. As a white man, I can pretty much go anywhere I want in America, even when not dressed well. A black man or woman must be careful, even when dressed for church.
Keith
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rangewriter said:
Yes, Keith. You are so correct. And knowing that you are a white, privileged male has not made you a lesser person. It has made you a more beautiful and cherished person. And, kudos to Warren Buffet. (I’ve seen his writings on this.) His privilege has also not made him less of a man or any less wealthy. There’s much to be gained from self-examination. And much lost, without it.
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Keith said:
Linda, I think this is why he donated so much of his money to the Gates Foundation. Thanks for the kind words. Keith
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oldandblessed said:
Privilege: Good piece! It got me thinking more deeply about this thing called privilege. At the center of all the discontent that’s forcing people to the street these days is white privilege. All privilege isn’t the same. I’m Black. I come from a poor,rural background in Arkansas. Born in 1950, I’m well acquainted with Jim Crow, segregation, white privilege, and more elements of an unequal society.
I was able to break out of my poor background. I and my wife have graduate degrees, and we’ve carved out a middle-class life style, which our kids were raised in. Our kids had a relative amount of privilege based on their parents economic status, but they’re still restrained, to a certan degree, based on white privilege. No matter what their family background, they will always be seen as Black. That burden is facilitated by the unconscious bias that many carry when they socialize with them.
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Jane's Heartsong said:
Thank you for sharing this, I appreciate your perspective and agree about that “unconscious bias” that we all need to work on.
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rangewriter said:
Thank you for providing your experiences. I’m reading “So you want to talk about race,” by Ijeoma Oluo. One of her chapters talks about privilege, which started me ruminating.
Really, each of us begins with a few privileges. But that skin color/ethnicity aspect is central to a huge host of ancillary privileges or lack thereof. Most Caucasians can trace their ancestry back 10 or more generations. Not so for those whose ancestors arrived in the hold of a ship. That alone is a starting place. (And one I forgot to list)
I think every aspect of life in America (and most of Europe) is made many fold more difficult for those with black/brown skin. No matter how brilliant, how beautiful, how kind, how strong a black/brown person is, in America that person must continually exhibit the best qualities, and any departure from a sunny disposition may trigger violence, either implied or physical. And frankly, Caucasians should be well beyond where most of us are right now.
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oldandblessed said:
In the strongest of Black Southern Baptist tradition, I offer a hearty AMEN!
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Jane's Heartsong said:
Wow! That is a long list and I am sure I can match it. One more is not ever thinking about my race. I have seen privilege exercises on YouTube and we had some at our church and I have examined this to some point but have a long way to go. I have often been grateful as a youth when I “went off the rails” for having the privilege of being brought up in church, middle class, well-read, etc. because it helped me get back on track easier than some of my mates. I watched some talks on “white fragility” and can’t deny that white privilege exists as well as systematic racism. It was interesting to see white people look confused When presented with examples of racism or privilege while people of colour nodded their heads in recognition. I hope we learn in school a new history that left out the stories of so many and I hope that I am open to being called on my shortcomings as well as self-examination. I have read the other comments with gratitude. Time to wake up and move forward not go backward.
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rangewriter said:
I agree, Jane. It’s really about opening our minds and practicing empathy. Otherwise, we will never understand the discontent and anger the roils all around us.
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Karen Krause said:
Powerful!
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Ruth Usrey said:
This coincides with my reading of “White Fragility”. To this day, it is a daily challenge to step outside my privilege. Your writing should make each of us uncomfortable.
Our bookclub should be lively this month…
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rangewriter said:
That one’s next on my list. This idea rumbled through my brain as I was reading “So you want to talk about race” by Ijeoma Oluo.
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Janis @ RetirementallyChallenged.com said:
My privileges pretty much align with yours. I think a lot of people see the inequities and agree that they are wrong and should be addressed… as long as they don’t have to give up any of their goodies. I heard an interesting report about a study that looked into the disproportionate number of POC who were getting sick and dying of Covid-19. It found that this was true for both low-income and high-income communities. I guess staying healthy and alive is the biggest privilege of all.
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rangewriter said:
Good point, Janis.
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gerard oosterman said:
Having a background from the Netherlands and having been married to a Finnish woman for 56 years, I did not grow up with too much inequality.
My dad however felt that as far as home duties, cleaning or cooking, he grew up believing those chores were reserved for the wife. He was privileged and felt entitled to get home after work, sit down and smoke his cigarette. My mother worked away very hard with six children. She had a much harder life than dad.
The Finnish woman is different and the rule of equality was firmly established the moment I met her. It was a wonderful togetherness while it lasted and she is now gone.
It is interesting that the Finnish Government is dominated by women, all there because of their expertise ,not because of their sex or privileges.
https://www.vox.com/2019/12/9/21002915/sanna-marin-prime-minister-of-finland-pm
As for America and their form of democracy; I don’t get how the present President got where he is. All sense and logic escapes my limited understanding of what is happening there. Perhaps it is a matter of a different contagion or mass hysteria.
I suppose my lack of tolerance and unwillingness to accept differences are my privileges and shortcomings and of course not excluding those that others see in me.
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rangewriter said:
Isn’t it Finland that is often rated as the happiest nation in the world? Or maybe that’s Denmark, but I think they are both amazingly organized countries.
Yeah, some of us feel we are suffering from two concurrent viruses. Coronavirus and Trumpvirus. Both are deadly, especially to the poor and disenfranchised.
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denisebushphoto said:
Very well said Linda! Great thought-provoking piece.
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rangewriter said:
Thanks, Denise.
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ShiraDest said:
Very nicely spoken and very nicely listed!
Shira
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rangewriter said:
Thank you Shira. I fear that I’ve probably been preaching to the choir, but really, we all (nearly all) are born with some blessings that grease the wheel of life in some way. It’s important to recognize those and to know that not everyone is equally blessed at birth.
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ShiraDest said:
Quite true. Thank you for pointing that out. It’s important, even if one is merely preaching to the choir. Hopefully the choir will expand…
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rangewriter said:
The push of Sisyphus .
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